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Proverbs 23:7a​ teaches us that as we think in our hearts, so we become. If we make these vows, or statements, they are waiting to be fulfilled, and satan will make sure that they happen. 
Many of these vows were said as children, yet they affect our lives as adults. If you have ever made such statements, it is now time to go before the LORD, and repent and break the power of the curse that was placed on your life.

PRAYER

Dear Heavenly Father, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and as an act of my free will, I confess, repent, and renounce the vow of (specific words) in my life and in all my generations, clear back to Adam. 

I ask you, Lord, to forgive me and all my family members and all my past and future generations for involvement in this vow. I release myself from the curse of this vow. 
And now in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and by the power of His blood, I cancel all of satan’s power and authority, programming and assignment over me because of the spoken words of the vow of (specific words). 
Holy Spirit, come and heal my heart and cleanse me from the effects of this vow. Please speak Your words of truth to me. 


Source: Wellspring Ministry, Anchorage, AK; How to Minister Workbook, Page 35

A LIST OF TYPICAL VOWS

•  I don’t matter. 
• I’m not good enough. 
• What’s the use in trying? I’ll never be good enough. 
• I’m an outcast. 
• It’s too complicated. 
• I don’t remember. I can’t remember. 
• I can’t do it. 
• I’ll just suck it up and go on. 
• Nobody will believe me. 
• No one will hear my heart, or listen to me, or validate me, or acknowledge me. 
• Emotions don’t matter. 
• It’s my fault. 
• I’m worthless. 
• I’d better be perfect. 
• Everyone else gets what they want. I never get what I want. When is it going to be my turn? 
• I’m defective. 
• I don’t have time for emotions. 
• I can’t or won’t access my emotions. 
• Emotions can’t be trusted. 
• I don’t want to learn this. 
• I can’t learn. 
• I have no control over it (my circumstances). 
• It’s okay to hurt me because I deserve it. 
• No one is going to hurt me again/twice. 
• I’ll never let a man/woman hurt me again. 
• I’m going to put up walls and I’m not going to give anyone another chance. 
• I had no choice except to try to get along with others because I was so emotionally crippled. 
• I don’t love God for who He is, I love Him for what He has done for me. 
• I’m supposed to save this marriage. 
• Don’t you get it? 
• What’s wrong with me? 
• I’d better look good. 
• I don’t want to respond to the emotional needs of others. 
• I’m not able to respond to the emotional needs of others. 
• I don’t want boundaries – they’re a fence. 
• Emotions are not valid, not logical, and they are not safe. 
• I’ve got to be king. 
• I’m just a doormat. 
• I’m a victim. 
• What is wrong with me? Why can’t I get my life together? 
• I’m just not motivated. 
• I’m depressed. 
• It’s just so hard (self-pity). 
• It’s just so sad. 
• Men don’t cry. 
• Men don’t hug. 
• Men have to be tough. 
• Men have to be strong. 
• I am unclean. 
• It only hurts for a little while. 
• Time heals all wounds. 
• Nothing is true; everything is permissible (situational ethics). 
• You can’t teach an old dog new tricks. 
• I have to take care of everyone and I don’t have time to take care of myself. 
• I’ll always find a way out; I’ll survive. 
• I’m always manipulated. 
• People always take advantage of me. 
• If someone else does something, then I have to replace it or make it up. 
• It’s just not for me. 
• I’m not going to have my turn. 
• I’m going to make the best of what I’ve got. 
• I’m going to carry my cross and the thorn in the flesh. 
• I have to steal the relationship (of my dad from my mom/of my mom from my dad). 
• I have to be good. 
• I’m the bad seed. 
• I have bad blood. 
• I’m defensive in everything because people try to take advantage of me. 
• I’m not going to be like my (mother/father). 
• You always hurt the one you love. 
• I’m not going to change. 
• I can’t change. 
• I’ve always been like this. 
• I’ve always done it this way. 
• This is the way it’s always been. 
• You can never tolerate the truth, it is too painful. 
• Children are to be seen and not heard. 
• Feelings should not be expressed. 
• Be strong, good, right and perfect, and make us proud of you. Don’t be selfish. 
• It’s not okay to play or be playful. 
• Keep peace at any price. 

Source: Wellspring Ministry, Anchorage, AK; How to Minister Workbook, Page 35